So here you are on a date… in a restaurant… and the sacramental question starts to pop up as soon as “check please“ arrives. To pay or not to pay?! Of course we all would like to establish that I am an independent girl and can afford my dinner. However NOT so fast, girl – even if you can pay and are happy to! Here is the catch. This is the first, and let me reassure you, not the last test for your new boyfriend-to-be guy. A decent man will be happy to pick up the bill, unless you’ve made some essential mistakes prior to dinner. Check your attitude before going on a date. Be a lady. Don’t try to dominate by showing him that you know it all and make a fortune a year. That will definitely throw him off and he will simply be demotivated. The right attitude is that he doesn’t have to but it is nice of him to get the bill.
Therefore, we don’t want to rush into paying, but express that you are willing to do so if that is necessary. You can always pay for something little such as a coat check, taxi or coffee afterwards to keep it somewhat even. This will be appreciated. Nobody wants to feel used. I believe that a man should buy you dinner on the first date, but only if he chooses to. If not, well, you can now choose your own attitude towards that matter.
The first date may not be a sign of anything dramatic. Give him another chance if you’d love to. Keep in mind though that man’s nature has a very simple need, which is his ability to provide and protect his woman (and future family). If he constantly chooses not to be responsible for the bill it most likely means that either he is not ready for a serious relationship with you (why does he have to pay for every girl he takes out?!), or he simply does not want the accountability at all. Do either of these options really call your name?
By Kristina Gesell 
Love it!!! ❤
oh well.. guess I keep on doing something wrong hahah
Я считаю, что мужик должен платить всегда!!!
Any man will be offended if I ask him something like this. His reaction is going to be: are you crazy? Doesn’t matter if it’s a bill for dinner, coffee or taxi. But I live in Russia. I’m assuming that my american boyfriend doesn’t mind if some day I follow Kristina’s advice to pay for something lol.
Thanks for the article. Good to know about mentality differences
what about sex on a first date???????? hahaha
That’s an actual topic nowadays, when some women are trying to be independent and others are too needy… Very interesting approach.
wow! Excellent article! Something always goes thru my head when I am on the date, I do agree with the writer when she said “nobody wants to feel used, men should buy you a dinner only if he chooses to”
Nowadays men gets as much advice on this subject as women do. And sometimes it’s creates that awkwardness when they are wondering if they are being used or not. But as an independent woman you should always offer to pay for your part and if he is a gentleman he will decline.
Love the style of the writer! Looking forward to read more of such real deal articles ❤️
It’s such a tricky topic, especially in the modern western culture where women want to be independent and feel humiliated if a man pays, it’s treated as they wouldn’t be able to do this themselves. However, this is not something I support and yes, it does tell me that the man won’t be able to take care of my family, if he isn’t keen to pay the bill for food:) Gread write up Kris!
Love the idea on checking on man’s responsibility level ?
Важный момент, который помогает девушке понять мужчину ) спасибо за интересную статью!