It has been more than a year since that day when Covid-19 arrived.
That day, all areas of our lives were affected, we were forced to stay at home and our day-to-day was put on pause. All our energy, ideas, creativity, and our closet were shut away. Now winter and summer clothes didn´t exist and the world was paralyzed. Our image was reduced to pajamas or tracksuits.
When you don´t pretend to use things in your lives they tend to disappear. Being yourself is something that precise practice, but first, we need to know-how.
Emotional dependency is a mental condition that can be reflected in all areas of our life, it gives us a second-hand life based on external approval.
It makes us judge what others do, think, or feel, and it makes us feel judged, it takes away our freedom and individuality.
Our way of dressing up and our way of expressing ourselves to the world begin from trust and personal truth, but such basic concepts aren´t always learned in our environment.
The first symptom that emotional dependency has is strong emotional pain.
People with this condition live through the feelings of third parties.
“If I don´t get many likes in a day, I don´t feel well, and I feel anxious” is something that is beginning to be heard a lot.
Being genuine and authentic is an ability that is learned. Being authentic means that I know my own nature, my needs, and I am an independent person. I don´t depend on what others think, what they do, or what they say. This is flying in first class!
The clothes we use give us a lot of information, but above all, why we use it is the key to understand our essence.
Finding our personal style is not only a matter of trying on clothes to find which one suits us. First, we have to know who we are and what we want. It is essential to know what are my difficulties and takes responsibility for them. Otherwise, I would be walking in somebody’s shoes and shadow.
People who are emotionally dependent have problems with decision-making, and they don´t have the ability to set healthy boundaries, they perceive themselves as superior or inferior to others, and unworthy of love. These people seek security in others, and they label them with their own negative characteristics.
These people numb the pain with the consumption of external stimulations or relationships with others, alleviating the emotional pain that floods their lives, but they may also turn to isolation. This pain becomes chronic pain.
Codependency is the condition that tells us that we are incapable and unworthy of love, that we are not enough, that no one listens to us or looks at us, that we don’t have and will never have anything, that it is not our responsibility, that it is our fault, and ultimately, that life is fair and that we deserve every bad thing that happens to us. But codependency is cured.
Fashion, expression, and emotional independence are crucial for this new normal to a new future.
Cognitive and Transpersonal Therapy
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